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HAVING IT ALL." Perhaps the greatest trap ever set for women was the coining of this phrase."
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We need to be grateful for what we have but dissatisfied with the status quo. This dissatisfaction spurs the charge for change. We must keep going.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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From the moment we are born, boys and girls are treated differently.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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I would not suggest that anyone move beyond feeling confident into arrogance or boastfulness. No one likes that in men or women. But feeling confident--or pretending that you feel confident--is necessary to reach for opportunities. It's a cliche, but opportunities are rarely offered; they're seized.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Given how fast the world moves today, grabbing opportunities is more important than ever. Few managers have the time to carefully consider all the applicants for a job, much less convince more reticent people to apply. And increasingly, opportunities are not well defined but, instead, come from someone jumping in to do something. That something then becomes his job. When
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at a certain point it's your ability to learn quickly and contribute quickly that matters. One of the things I tell people these days is that there is no perfect fit when you're looking for the next big thing to do. You have to take opportunities and make an opportunity fit for you, rather than the other way around. The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have."13 Virginia"
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I want to apply to work with you at Facebook," she said. "So I thought about calling you and telling you all of the things I'm good at and all of the things I like to do. Then I figured that everyone was doing that. So instead, I want to ask you: What is your biggest problem, and how can I solve it?"
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Trying to overcorrect is a great way to find middle ground.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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In 1970, American women were paid 59 cents for every dollar their male counterparts made. By 2010, women had protested, fought, and worked their butts off to raise that compensation to 77 cents for every dollar men made. As activist Marlo Thomas wryly joked on Equal Pay Day 2011, "Forty years and eighteen cents. A dozen eggs have gone up ten times that amount."
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Mozhlivo, i spravdi isnuiut' evoliutsiini prichini togo, shcho odin z bat'kiv lipshe znaie, iakii obid treba dati ditiam u shkolu. Zhinki goduiut' grud'mi, tomu, tak bi moviti, u nikh i zapakovano pershi obidi yikhnikh ditei. Ta navit' iakshcho viznati, shcho materi prirodno skhil'nishi opikuvatisia dit'mi, bat'ki mozhut' nadoluzhiti svoie zavdiaki znanniam i zusilliam. Iakshcho zhinki khochut' buti uspishnishimi v roboti, choloviki - u sim..
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In 2012, Gloria Steinem sat down in her home for an interview with Oprah Winfrey. Gloria reiterated that progress for women in the home has trailed progress in the workplace, explaining, "Now we know that women can do what men can do, but we don't know that men can do what women can do."34 I believe they can and we should give them more chances to prove it." --
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Colleagues and the media are also quick to credit external factors for a woman's achievements.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When a man helps a colleague, the recipient feels indebted to him and is highly likely to return the favor. But when a woman helps out, the feeling of indebtedness is weaker. (...) Professor Flynn calls this the "gender discount" problem, and it means that women are paying a professional penalty for their pressumed desire to be communal."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Personal connections lead to assignments and promotions, so it needs to be okay for men and women to spend informal time together the same way men can. A senior man and a junior man at a bar is seen as mentoring. A senior man and a junior woman at a bar can also be mentoring... but is looks like dating.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Forty-three percent of highly qualified women with children are leaving careers, or "off-ramping", for a period of time."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Over the past decade, child care costs have risen twice as fast as the median income of families with children.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Only 74 percent of professional women will rejoin the workforce in any capacity, and only 40 percent will return to full-time jobs [after taking time out of the workforce to raise children]. Those who rejoin will often see their earnings decrease dramatically.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Girls growing up today are not the first generation to have equal opportunity, but they are the first to know that all that opportunity does not necessarily translate into profesional achievement.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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gender bias influences how we view performance and typically raises our assessment of men while lowering our assessment of women.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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If I had to embrace a definition of success, it would be that success is making the best choices we can ... and accepting them. Journalist Mary Curtis suggested in The Washington Post that the best advice anyone can offer "is for women and men to drop the guilt trip, even as the minutes tick away. The secret is there is no secret--just doing the best you can with what you've got."32"
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The keynote speaker, Dr. Peggy McIntosh from the Wellesley Centers for Women, gave a talk called "Feeling Like a Fraud."1 She explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recognition, they feel undeserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achievers, even experts in their fields, women can't seem to shake the sense ..
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In 2012, a series of studies compared men in more "modern" marriages (whose wives worked outside the home full-time) to men in more "traditional" marriages (whose wives worked at home). The researchers wanted to determine if a man's home arrangement affected his professional behavior. It did. Compared to men in modern marriages, men in more traditional marriages viewed the presence of women in the workforce less favorably. They also denied ..
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Everyone needs to get more comfortable with female leaders--including female leaders themselves.
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Careers are a jungle gym, not a ladder." As Lori describes it, ladders are limiting--people can move up or down, on or off. Jungle gyms offer more creative exploration. There's only one way to get to the top of a ladder, but there are many ways to get to the top of a jungle gym. The jungle gym model benefits everyone,"
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There are still countries that deny women basic civil rights. Worldwide, about 4.4 million women and 1 girls are trapped in the sex trade. In places like Afghanistan and Sudan, girls receive little or no education, wives are treated as the property of their husbands, and women who are raped are routinely cast out of their homes for disgracing their families. Some rape victims are even sent to jail for committing a "moral crime."2 We are cen..
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In 1975, stay-at-home mothers spent an average of about eleven hours per week on primary child care (defined as routine caregiving and activities that foster a child's well-being, such as reading and fully focused play). Mothers employed outside the home in 1975 spent six hours doing these activities. Today, stay-at-home mothers spend about seventeen hours per week on primary child care, on average, while mothers who work outside the home s..
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Social scientists have observed that when members of a group are made aware of a negative stereotype, they are more likely to perform according to that stereotype.
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This experiment supports what research has already clearly shown: success and likeability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women.3 When a man is successful, he is liked by both men and women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less. This truth is both shocking and unsurprising: shocking because no one would ever admit to stereotyping on the basis of gender and unsurprising because clea..
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Now I proudly call myself a feminist. If Tip O'Neill were alive today, I might even tell him that I'm a pom-pom girl for feminism. I hope more women, and men, will join me in accepting this distinguished label. Currently, only 24 percent of women in the United States say that they consider themselves feminists. Yet when offered a more specific definition of feminism--"A feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equ..
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Fred Kofman, a former MIT professor and author of Conscious Business. Dave
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Progress remains equally sluggish when it comes to compensation. In 1970, American women were paid 59 cents for every dollar their male counterparts made. By 2010, women had protested, fought, and worked their butts off to raise that compensation to 77 cents for every dollar men made.10 As activist Marlo Thomas wryly joked on Equal Pay Day 2011, "Forty years and eighteen cents. A dozen eggs have gone up ten times that amount."11"
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Okay, so all a woman has to do is ignore society's expectations, be ambitious, sit at the table, work hard, and then it's smooth sailing all the way. What could possibly go wrong?
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Professor Gruenfeld was able to explain the price women pay for success: "Our entrenched cultural ideas associate men with leadership qualities and women with nurturing qualities and put women in a double blind," she said. "We believe not only that women are nurturing, but that they *should* be nurturing above all else. When a woman does anything that signals she might not be nice first and foremost, it creates a negative impression and mak..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When husbands work fifty or more hours per week, wives with children are 44 percent more likely to quit their jobs than wives with children whose husbands work less.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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It's no surprise that married and cohabitating men whose mothers were employed while they were growing up do more housework as adults than other men.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Women provide more than twice as much care not only for their own parents, but for their in-laws as well.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Guilt management can be just as important as time management.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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in order to fix the problems we needed to be able to talk about gender without people thinking we were crying for help.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Staying quiet and fitting in may have been all the first generations of women who entered corporate America could do; in some cases, it might still be the safest path. But this strategy is not paying off for women as a group. Instead, we need to speak out, identify the barriers that are holding women back, and find solutions.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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The most common metaphor for careers is a ladder, but this concept no longer applies to most workers. As of 2010, the average American had eleven jobs from the ages of eighteen to forty-six alone.1 This means that the days of joining an organization or corporation and staying there to climb that one ladder are long gone. Lori often quotes Pattie Sellers, who conceived a much better metaphor: "Careers are a jungle gym, not a ladder."
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A survey of high-earning professionals in the corporate world found that 62 percent work more than fifty hours a week and 10 percent work more than eighty hours per week.18 Technology, while liberating us at times from the physical office, has also extended the workday. A 2012 survey of employed adults showed that 80 percent of the respondents continued to work after leaving the office, 38 percent checked e-mail at the dinner table, and 69 ..
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The simple act of talking openly about behavioral patterns makes the subconscious conscious.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Given how fast the world moves today, grabbing opportunities is more important than ever. Few managers have the time to carefully consider all the applicants for a job, much less convince more reticent people to apply. And increasingly, opportunities are not well defined but, instead, come from someone jumping in to do something. That something then becomes his job.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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As more women lean in to their careers, more men need to lean in to their families. We need to encourage men to be more ambitious in their homes. We need more men to sit at the table ... the kitchen table.
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