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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| f209262 | One regrets the loss even of one's worst habits. Perhaps one regrets them the most. They are such an essential part of one's personality. --OSCAR WILDE | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 78fe41c | Pushing myself, I knew, would cause me serious discomfort. It's a Secret of Adulthood: Happiness doesn't always make you feel happy. When I thought about why I was sometimes reluctant to push myself, I realized that it was because I was afraid of failure-but in order to have more success, I needed to be willing to accept more failure... To counteract this fear, I told myself, 'I enjoy the fun of failure.' It's fun to fail, I kept repeating... | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| a243a68 | The single most important element in developing an expertise is your willingness to practice | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0e48145 | Another study suggested that getting one extra hour of sleep each night would do more for a person's daily happiness than getting a $ 60,000 raise. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| fa58b7f | A study of workers in various industries showed that their job satisfaction was less tied to their salaries than to how their salaries compared to their coworkers' salaries. People understand the significance of this principle: in one study, a majority of people chose to earn $50,000 where others earned $25,000, rather than earn $100,000 where others earned $250,000. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| db8dec1 | There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision, and for whom the lighting of every cigar, the drinking of every cup, the time of rising and going to bed every day, and the beginning of every bit of work, are subjects of express volitional deliberation. Full half the time of such a man goes to the deciding, or regretting, of matters which ought to be so ingrained in him as practically not to exist .. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 38a4276 | Walking had an added benefit: it helped me to think. Nietzsche wrote, "All truly great thoughts are conceived while walking," and his observation is backed up by science; exercise-induced brain chemicals help people think clearly. In fact, just stepping outside clarifies thinking and boosts energy. Light deprivation is one reason that people feel tired, and even five minutes of daylight stimulates production of serotonin and dopamine, brain.. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 775849d | This self-knowledge is crucial because we can build a happy life only on the foundation of our own nature, our own interests, and our own values. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 4c27c39 | It's easier to complain than to laugh, easier to yell than to joke around, easier to be demanding than to be satisfied. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 2f0f979 | By doing a little bit each day you can get a lot accomplished | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| b169b53 | It was interesting to have a better sense of my daily habits | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 5cb9054 | Research suggests that when we have conflicting goals, we don't manage ourselves well. We become anxious and paralyzed, and we often end up doing nothing. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 3924a78 | Apply the "one minute rule". Don't postpone anything that could be done in less than a minute" | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 63120fb | Once I've spelled out the problem in words, the greater clarity usually helps me to spot a solution. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 175644c | happiness is not having less; happiness is not having more; happiness is wanting what I have. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 72aa081 | Finely Tuned: How to Thrive as a Highly Sensitive Person or Empath - Barrie Davenport Simplify - Joshua Becker Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded - Maxwell Maltz, MD, FICS The Mindset of Organization - Lisa Woodruff What is your WHAT? - Steve Olsher (follow the link to get a free copy!) Better Than Before - Gretchen Rubin Books | Sarah Lentz | ||
| 182a5f7 | At certain points in our lives, it may not be possible to be happy, but it is possible to try to be happier--as happy as we can be, under the circumstances--and by doing so, fortify ourselves against adversity. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| fa8b40f | In general, happiness doesn't make people want to drink daiquiris on the beach; it makes them want to help rural villagers gain better access to clean water. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 60770a7 | When the fiddle had stopped singing Laura called out softly, "What are days of auld lang syne, Pa?" "They are the days of a long time ago, Laura," Pa said. "Go to sleep, now." But Laura lay awake a little while, listening to Pa's fiddle softly playing and to the lovely sound of the wind in the Big Woods. She looked at Pa sitting on the bench by the hearth, the firelight gleaming on his brown hair and beard and glistening on the honey-brown .. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0a8071b | What am I waiting for? What would I do if I weren't scared? What steps would make things easier? What would I do if I had all the time and money in the world? If I were looking back at this decision, five years from now, what will I wish I'd done? | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0e22156 | Made to Stick, Chip and Dan Heath describe | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 8ef6393 | If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough. Over-the-counter | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| db0614a | Frankl observed, "In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice." *" | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 73a6858 | Instead of contradicting pessimistic or negative statements, acknowledge them. Happiness leeches are often less emphatic when they feel that others recognize their views. * Act the way I want to feel; behave the way I want to behave. Too | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| c1baa87 | Elias Canetti observed, "One lives in the naive notion that later there will be more room than in the entire past." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| c2d6443 | how a couple fights matters more than how much they fight. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9f2193d | I feel unsettled at any time when I'm not writing. And I mean that. There's a sense of peace, and of being in the right place, that I experience only when I'm writing. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 4e4c587 | Studies show that if you have five or more friends with whom to discuss an important matter, you're far more likely to describe yourself as "very happy." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 8bceb49 | Obligers, however, often dislike their Tendency. They're vexed by the fact that they can meet others' expectations, but not their expectations for themselves. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| ed5aa8a | One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy; One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 004196a | I was comforted by the words of my model Benjamin Franklin, who reflected of his own chart: "On the whole, though I never arrived at perfection I had been so ambitious of obtaining, but fell far short of it, yet as I was, by the endeavor, a better and a happier man than I otherwise should have been had I not attempted it." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 37e2709 | The harder the push, the greater the Rebel push-back. I laughed when a Rebel friend told me, 'No one can tell me to do anything. I recently got an email saying "Please read" in the subject line, and I immediately deleted it." | don-t-tell-me-what-i-can-t-do personality rebel rebellion resistance | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 28425da | As one Questioner pointed out, 'The Rebels' best asset is their voice of dissent. We shouldn't try to school it out of them, or to corporate-culture it out, or shame it out. It's there to protect us all. | dissent rebel rebellion | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 7e1ae8d | Habits are the invisible architecture of daily life. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 182a5d0 | I was reminded of Lord Kelvin's observation, overbroad but nevertheless thought-provoking: "When you cannot express it in number, your knowledge is of a meager and unsatisfactory kind." -- | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| c3c5e14 | Aaron Beck, founder of cognitive behavioral therapy, maintains that people find it easy to notice what their partners do wrong, but not what they do right, so he suggests keeping "marriage diaries" to track partners' considerate behavior; one study showed that 70 percent of couples who did this tracking reported an improved relationship." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 46ac78a | As the weeks wore on, along with keeping a food journal, I added a new monitoring habit: No seconds. When people preplate their food and eat just one helping, they eat about 14 percent less than when they take smaller servings and return for more helpings. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| fb71bf7 | Lack of sleep negatively affects mood, memory, immune function, and pain sensitivity; it makes people more likely to fight with their partners; it contributes to weight gain. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 90adb7f | So where should we start? It's helpful to begin with habits that most directly strengthen self-control; these habits serve as the Foundation for forming other good habits. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6ca77d7 | Are you a morning person or a night person (Lark or Owl)? Do you enjoy spending time outdoors, or do you prefer not to deal with weather? Are you motivated by competition? Do you enjoy exercising to strong music and a driving beat, or do you prefer a quiet background? Do you respond well to some form of external accountability (a trainer, a running group), or is internal accountability sufficient? Do you like to challenge yourself with exer.. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9c0a73b | IF IT'S ON THE CALENDAR, IT HAPPENS | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 74945e3 | Scheduling makes us far more likely to convert an activity into a habit (well, except for Rebels), so for that reason, I schedule even some slightly ridiculous habits, such as "Kiss Jamie every morning and every night." Habits grow strongest and fastest when they're repeated" | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| f73ae74 | Although many people believe that habits form in twenty-one days, when researchers at University College London examined how long people took to adopt a daily habit, such as drinking water or doing sit-ups, they found that, on average, a habit took sixty-six days to form. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 4f8281a | Consistency, repetition, no decision--this was the way to develop the ease of a true habit. | Gretchen Rubin |