relationships

Link	Quote	Tags	Author
28d9593	Their walking relationship was unnatural, but they were too fearful to seat themselves at a restuarant to share a meal, for they knew that restaurants in our country are the principal target of the active and increasingly familiar morals committees that harass people of every nationality who live in Saudi Arabia. Such committees are composed of menancing men who unexpectedly surround and enter eating establishments, demanding identification of the restaurant patrons. If proof is not forthcoming that the men and women sharing a table are not husband and wife, brother or sister, or father and daughter, these frightened people will be arrested and escorted to a city gaol, with punishment freely given. The legal penalties vary according to the nationality of the 'criminal'. Muslim offenders can be flogged for their social misconduct, while non-Muslims are gaoled or deported.	feminism relationships women royal-family society muslim oppression	Jean Sasson
b74e3a1	He smiled as he imagined the composite Jamie/Isabel, who would play the bassoon, read philosophy, interfere in other people's affairs rather too much, drive a green Swedish car and make legendary potatoes Dauphinoise.	relationships	Alexander McCall Smith
901d20b	But that was the nature of relationships: there always seemed to be an imbalance of one sort or another.	relationships power-dynamics relationship-dynamics the-only-story julian-barnes	Julian Barnes
4b5b364	The apartment is a laboratory in which we conduct experiments, perform research on each other. We discover Henry hates it when I absentmindedly click my spoon against my teeth while reading the paper at breakfast. We agree that it is okay for me to listen to Joni Mitchell and it is okay for Henry to listen to the Shaggs as long as the other person isn't around. We figure out that Henry should do all the cooking and I should be in charge of laundry and neither of us is willing to vacuum so we hire a cleaning service.	relationships married-life	Audrey Niffenegger
0e9b3c5	We shape each other to be human.	relationships humanity	Ursula K. Le Guin
15a0482	I suppose we never know what we have the capacity to forgive until we're truly tested.	relationships wisdom trials friendships	Elise Broach
fcdd835	- Love, which is a kind of permission to come closer than ordinary norms of good behavior might usually sanction. - Back rubs. - Which enables us to see each other without clothes on, for example, in lust and shame. - Examining perfections, imperfections. - Which allows us to say wounding things to each other which would not be kosher under the ordinary rules of civilized discourse.	relationships romance love	Donald Barthelme
85b36d9	The partition between love and anger is thin. I suppose it's a need to protect the self from further wounding that makes people scream at the one they love.	anger-and-love relationships love	Sebastian Faulks
b285ea6	You may find that yes, your partner tends to shout easily, but the shouting contains no malice and passes quickly. Perhaps your partner's short fuse does not prevent them from being loving and supportive. In that case, you may have found a gem whom others have avoided because they cannot get past the bursts of temper. But if you find that time after time, a partner or close friend disappoints you by being just like a difficult parent, then you would do well to consider whether you are selecting someone who helps you reproduce that difficult relationship.	relationships shouting anger parent	Terri Apter
27a5436	a single outburst does not produce a difficult relational environment. It is only when a parent [or anyone] repeatedly and regularly uses anger to close conversations, in the broadest sense of 'conversation,' that a dilemma is framed. When a parent [or partner] uses anger or the threat of anger to dominate the emotional atmosphere, then even potentially good conversations with them lose spontaneity, openness and honesty.	relationships attack domination emotional-abuse spouses anger parents	Terri Apter
918722d	"What do you call the weak point?" He paused. "The fact that the average American looks down on his wife."	marriage relationships humor undine-spragg weak-point	Edith Wharton
4ebd1f2	Usaldus pole mitte uksnes juhtimissuhete, vaid koigi suhete vundament. Sa ei saa mojutada inimesi, kes sind ei usalda. Sa ei saa rajada positiivseid suhteid inimestega, kui neil on sinust negatiivne pilt. Usaldus on liim, mis hoiab inimesi koos.	relationships trust usaldus	John C. Maxwell
06a73f6	Circumstances, luck, mutual need, affection and time played a part. No relationships were made in heaven. They were made because living things were looking for good company. And when you found good company, you valued it deeply and were responsible for its up-keep and well-being.	relationships	Robert Fulghum
1cc4ea0	"In his 1964 talk on feminism, Winnicott says something he's been saying all along. "...We find that the trouble is not so much that everyone was inside and then born, but that at the very beginning everyone was on a woman." Winnicott sees this dependence as the root of misogyny--though he never uses that word. Perhaps, like Woolf with "feminism," he felt plain language was more persuasive. "The awkward fact remains, for men and women, that each was once dependent on a woman, and somehow a hatred of this has to be turned into a kind of gratitude if full maturity of the personality is to be reached."	feminism relationships family misogyny parents	Alison Bechdel
a7ed2cb	Ah, Chantal... Now I think I know how it feels to fly on a trapeze.	relationships love	Madeleine Brent
0bc4f84	What you think of as your common sense in regard to relationships may be based on something you have come to believe that isn't totally true or may not be true at all.	relationships the-laws-of-love self-help	Chris Prentiss
fba86ed	El secreto de la felicidad, o, por lo menos, de la tranquilidad, es saber separar el sexo del amor. Y, si es posible, eliminar el amor romantico de tu vida, que es el que hace sufrir. Asi se vive mas tranquilo y se goza mas.	sex relationships	Mario Vargas Llosa
a26c5bd	"The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see "show up", not what part of another you can capture and hold. There can be only one purpose for relationships - and for all of life: to be and to decide Who You Really Are. [...] The test of your relationships has had to do with how well the other lived up to your ideas, and how well you saw yourselves living up to his or hers. Yet the only true test has to do with how well you live up to yours. Relationships are sacred because they provide life's grandest opportunity - indeed, its only opportunity - to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of Self."	relationships people-relations relationship-advice relationship-quotes friendships people-skills	Neale Donald Walsch
bccf5b9	She was her own Enigma Code and me and my dad were not Bletchley Park.	understanding relationships mothers mysteries	Jeanette Winterson
e1ed2a4	... all decisions and actions that will affect your relationship must be made by answering this single question: Will the action I am considering have a negative impact on my relationship? If the answer is yes, don't do it.	relationships laws-of-love	Chris Prentiss
0d3585d	The relationship must come first or it will not last.	relationships laws-of-love	Chris Prentiss
646a614	To preserve what you have, to keep your relationships alive and glowing, give generously- give of your time, you assets, your attention, your help, and your love. Give of yourself.	relationships laws-of-love self-improvement	Chris Prentiss
6b2175c	Trustworthy partners always think first before they do anything that may affect either the reputation or well-being of each other.	relationships trustworthy self-improvement	Chris Prentiss
01ec55c	First-class relationships are possible only in an atmosphere of total trust.	relationships self-help	Chris Prentiss
4f244c4	A diminished self-image will cause you to slouch, to avoid meeting others, to avoid looking others in the eye, to be unassertive, and to be indecisive.	relationships self-improvement self-image	Chris Prentiss
73b84cd	Change starts with awareness.	relationships self-improvement	Chris Prentiss
dda79f0	Once an event has taken place, since you cannot alter the past, all that is left to you is your response.	relationships laws-of-love	Chris Prentiss
6595042	To have the beautiful relationship you want, you and your partner must share your life stories with each other, holding nothing back. That sharing includes any past experiences of brutality, traumas, rape, incest, and emotional or mental torture of any kind that either of you has experienced as well as the wonderful memories you each cherish.	relationships self-help	Chris Prentiss
aee4b7d	When you imagine yourself as a failure or as having insurmountable problems in your relationships or any part of your life, you think failure, act failure, and produce failure.	relationships laws-of-love failure	Chris Prentiss
c35279a	You create your future moment by moment.	relationships laws-of-love	Chris Prentiss
e80fc52	Each of us is different and has different needs. In addition, our needs change over the course of our relationship. When you are committed to an enduring relationship with someone, you aren't simply concerned about having your needs met. You also go out of your way to care for your loved one, being aware of and adaptable to their changing needs.	relationships inspiration life love the-laws-of-love chris-prentiss self-help	Chris Prentiss
dd2b6fd	Life's tempering and altering process often takes the form of adversity, and, as far as outward appearances are concerned, seems to be working against us when it is actually working for us.	relationships inspiration life love the-laws-of-love	Chris Prentiss
29c9372	Life is like a river: nothing is ever the same, even for an instant.	relationships life the-laws-of-love self-help	Chris Prentiss
4d34dd5	Dingen die eenmaal weg zijn, kunnen niet teruggehaald worden, dat wist hij nu wel. Een klap, eenmaal uitgedeeld, kan niet worden ingetrokken. Woorden, eenmaal uitgesproken, kunnen niet onuitgesproken worden gemaakt. We mogen verdergaan alsof er niets verloren, niets gedaan, niets gezegd is, we mogen beweren het allemaal te vergeten, maar ons diepste wezen vergeet niet, omdat we voor altijd veranderd zijn.	relationships	Julian Barnes
5e2fc04	Do you believe in chaos- in random, uncontrolled events, in the idea that anything can happen at any time without fixed laws governing it? If you believe that, you will always be in a state of fear, not knowing what will happen from one moment to the next. The fear might be small, but it is there. That fear results in a lack of security and a feeling of mistrust.	relationships the-laws-of-love self-help	Chris Prentiss
a71257d	"The author describes Speaker of the House Sam Rayburn as "seldom at ease without a gavel in his hand."	relationships vocation job	Robert A. Caro
cedda3f	A newcomer could ascertain the identity of a town's true leaders - which storekeeper was respected, which farmer was listened to other farmers - only through endless hours of subtle probing of reticent men.	relationships leadership retail-politics	Robert A. Caro
dc9fa90	Every relationship is an education. Each new person we welcome into our hearts is a chance to evolve into something radically different than we used to be.	relationships	Brian K. Vaughan
d6d68cf	And I dare to believe that it really is. I dare to bet on us again.	relationships love gamble dare second-chances	Lisa Renee Jones
837ffed	She's such a lovely woman, he'd tell me time and time again. I'd nod, because my mom is such a lovely woman. And charming and smart. Can't argue with any of that. She's also a fucking wack job.	relationships	Lisa Gardner
ac3ad4d	By the end of the affair, she had acquired so much miserable information about men and women she almost decided to give up relationships for good.	men relationships women	Angela Carter
c9d3e01	"Donner Party Forsaken, fucking in the cold, eating each other, lost runny noses, complaining all the time like so many	relationships	Richard Brautigan
e57a58e	Dear God, I don't want my fear to be a barrier to the blessings you are trying to bestow. Cast out my fear, and help me to trust your perfect love. But also grant me a full measure of wisdom. Do not let me be led astray by my own desires. If it is not your will that I pursue a relationship with Levi, I pray that you will stop me. Make your message so clear that I cannot argue it away. Protect me, Lord, and show me the way I should go.	relationships prayer religion wisdom inspirational faith-quotes godly-woman historical	Karen Witemeyer
0061ca1	Humans have a tendency to look for things in the places where it is easiest to search for them rather than in the places where the truth is more likely to be found.	relationships truth	Esther Perel
8b463fb	At their peak, affairs rarely lack imagination. Nor do they lack desire, abundance of attention, romance, and playfulness. Shared dreams, affection, passion and endless curiosityall these are natural ingredients found in the adulterous plot. They are also ingredients of thriving relationships. It is no accident that many of the most erotic couples lift their marital strategies directly from the infidelity playbook.	marriage relationships	Esther Perel
b593120	"You're the only person who means anything to me in the whole world, you're all I've got..." "Well then you've got nothin."	relationships meaning love nothing	Garth Ennis
8ce7a28	That's what I've noticed about being 32: it is a lot of women and a lot of boys our age.	relationships	Mindy Kaling
6dcb0e7	She was such a solitary woman. A solitary woman who longed for one person to know her. I think I do know her now, but it is too late.	understanding solitude loneliness relationships	Jeanette Winterson
7032448	Britain had an air of careless supremacy which GALLED her neighbors.	relationships compassion leadership visuals	Barbara W. Tuchman
b8ff7e2	I have known both of you all your lives, have carried your Daddy in my arms and on my shoulders, kissed and spanked him and watched him learn to walk. I don't know if you've known anybody from that far back; if you've loved anybody that long, first as an infant, then as a child, then as a man, you gain a strange perspective on time and human pain and effort. Other people cannot see what I see whenever I look into your father's face, for behind your father's face as it is today are all those other faces which were his. Let him laugh and I see a cellar your father does not remember and a house he does not remember and I hear in his present laughter his laughter as a child. Let him curse and I remember him falling down the cellar steps, and howling, and I remember, with pain, his tears, which my hand or your grandmother's so easily wiped away. But no one's hand can wipe away those tears he sheds invisibly today, which one hears in his laughter and in his speech and in his songs.	relationships inspirational parenting	James Baldwin
2ed0e7b	You stop talking about things when you've worked them out. You're no longer an observer but a participant. You're too busy for this bullshit.	relationships	Caitlin Moran

28d9593

Their walking relationship was unnatural, but they were too fearful to seat themselves at a restuarant to share a meal, for they knew that restaurants in our country are the principal target of the active and increasingly familiar morals committees that harass people of every nationality who live in Saudi Arabia. Such committees are composed of menancing men who unexpectedly surround and enter eating establishments, demanding identification of the restaurant patrons. If proof is not forthcoming that the men and women sharing a table are not husband and wife, brother or sister, or father and daughter, these frightened people will be arrested and escorted to a city gaol, with punishment freely given. The legal penalties vary according to the nationality of the 'criminal'. Muslim offenders can be flogged for their social misconduct, while non-Muslims are gaoled or deported.

feminism relationships women royal-family society muslim oppression

Jean Sasson

b74e3a1

He smiled as he imagined the composite Jamie/Isabel, who would play the bassoon, read philosophy, interfere in other people's affairs rather too much, drive a green Swedish car and make legendary potatoes Dauphinoise.

relationships

Alexander McCall Smith

901d20b

But that was the nature of relationships: there always seemed to be an imbalance of one sort or another.

relationships power-dynamics relationship-dynamics the-only-story julian-barnes

Julian Barnes

4b5b364

The apartment is a laboratory in which we conduct experiments, perform research on each other. We discover Henry hates it when I absentmindedly click my spoon against my teeth while reading the paper at breakfast. We agree that it is okay for me to listen to Joni Mitchell and it is okay for Henry to listen to the Shaggs as long as the other person isn't around. We figure out that Henry should do all the cooking and I should be in charge of laundry and neither of us is willing to vacuum so we hire a cleaning service.

relationships married-life

Audrey Niffenegger

0e9b3c5

We shape each other to be human.

relationships humanity

Ursula K. Le Guin

15a0482

I suppose we never know what we have the capacity to forgive until we're truly tested.

relationships wisdom trials friendships

Elise Broach

fcdd835

- Love, which is a kind of permission to come closer than ordinary norms of good behavior might usually sanction. - Back rubs. - Which enables us to see each other without clothes on, for example, in lust and shame. - Examining perfections, imperfections. - Which allows us to say wounding things to each other which would not be kosher under the ordinary rules of civilized discourse.

relationships romance love

Donald Barthelme

85b36d9

The partition between love and anger is thin. I suppose it's a need to protect the self from further wounding that makes people scream at the one they love.

anger-and-love relationships love

Sebastian Faulks

b285ea6

You may find that yes, your partner tends to shout easily, but the shouting contains no malice and passes quickly. Perhaps your partner's short fuse does not prevent them from being loving and supportive. In that case, you may have found a gem whom others have avoided because they cannot get past the bursts of temper. But if you find that time after time, a partner or close friend disappoints you by being just like a difficult parent, then you would do well to consider whether you are selecting someone who helps you reproduce that difficult relationship.

relationships shouting anger parent

Terri Apter

27a5436

a single outburst does not produce a difficult relational environment. It is only when a parent [or anyone] repeatedly and regularly uses anger to close conversations, in the broadest sense of 'conversation,' that a dilemma is framed. When a parent [or partner] uses anger or the threat of anger to dominate the emotional atmosphere, then even potentially good conversations with them lose spontaneity, openness and honesty.

relationships attack domination emotional-abuse spouses anger parents

Terri Apter

918722d

"What do you call the weak point?" He paused. "The fact that the average American looks down on his wife."

marriage relationships humor undine-spragg weak-point

Edith Wharton

4ebd1f2

Usaldus pole mitte uksnes juhtimissuhete, vaid koigi suhete vundament. Sa ei saa mojutada inimesi, kes sind ei usalda. Sa ei saa rajada positiivseid suhteid inimestega, kui neil on sinust negatiivne pilt. Usaldus on liim, mis hoiab inimesi koos.

relationships trust usaldus

John C. Maxwell

06a73f6

Circumstances, luck, mutual need, affection and time played a part. No relationships were made in heaven. They were made because living things were looking for good company. And when you found good company, you valued it deeply and were responsible for its up-keep and well-being.

relationships

Robert Fulghum

1cc4ea0

"In his 1964 talk on feminism, Winnicott says something he's been saying all along. "...We find that the trouble is not so much that everyone was inside and then born, but that at the very beginning everyone was on a woman." Winnicott sees this dependence as the root of misogyny--though he never uses that word. Perhaps, like Woolf with "feminism," he felt plain language was more persuasive. "The awkward fact remains, for men and women, that each was once dependent on a woman, and somehow a hatred of this has to be turned into a kind of gratitude if full maturity of the personality is to be reached."

feminism relationships family misogyny parents

Alison Bechdel

a7ed2cb

Ah, Chantal... Now I think I know how it feels to fly on a trapeze.

relationships love

Madeleine Brent

0bc4f84

What you think of as your common sense in regard to relationships may be based on something you have come to believe that isn't totally true or may not be true at all.

relationships the-laws-of-love self-help

Chris Prentiss

fba86ed

El secreto de la felicidad, o, por lo menos, de la tranquilidad, es saber separar el sexo del amor. Y, si es posible, eliminar el amor romantico de tu vida, que es el que hace sufrir. Asi se vive mas tranquilo y se goza mas.

sex relationships

Mario Vargas Llosa

a26c5bd

"The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see "show up", not what part of another you can capture and hold. There can be only one purpose for relationships - and for all of life: to be and to decide Who You Really Are. [...] The test of your relationships has had to do with how well the other lived up to your ideas, and how well you saw yourselves living up to his or hers. Yet the only true test has to do with how well you live up to yours. Relationships are sacred because they provide life's grandest opportunity - indeed, its only opportunity - to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of Self."

relationships people-relations relationship-advice relationship-quotes friendships people-skills

Neale Donald Walsch

bccf5b9

She was her own Enigma Code and me and my dad were not Bletchley Park.

understanding relationships mothers mysteries

Jeanette Winterson

e1ed2a4

... all decisions and actions that will affect your relationship must be made by answering this single question: Will the action I am considering have a negative impact on my relationship? If the answer is yes, don't do it.

relationships laws-of-love

Chris Prentiss

0d3585d

The relationship must come first or it will not last.

relationships laws-of-love

Chris Prentiss

646a614

To preserve what you have, to keep your relationships alive and glowing, give generously- give of your time, you assets, your attention, your help, and your love. Give of yourself.

relationships laws-of-love self-improvement

Chris Prentiss

6b2175c

Trustworthy partners always think first before they do anything that may affect either the reputation or well-being of each other.

relationships trustworthy self-improvement

Chris Prentiss

01ec55c

First-class relationships are possible only in an atmosphere of total trust.

relationships self-help

Chris Prentiss

4f244c4

A diminished self-image will cause you to slouch, to avoid meeting others, to avoid looking others in the eye, to be unassertive, and to be indecisive.

relationships self-improvement self-image

Chris Prentiss

73b84cd

Change starts with awareness.

relationships self-improvement

Chris Prentiss

dda79f0

Once an event has taken place, since you cannot alter the past, all that is left to you is your response.

relationships laws-of-love

Chris Prentiss

6595042

To have the beautiful relationship you want, you and your partner must share your life stories with each other, holding nothing back. That sharing includes any past experiences of brutality, traumas, rape, incest, and emotional or mental torture of any kind that either of you has experienced as well as the wonderful memories you each cherish.

relationships self-help

Chris Prentiss

aee4b7d

When you imagine yourself as a failure or as having insurmountable problems in your relationships or any part of your life, you think failure, act failure, and produce failure.

relationships laws-of-love failure

Chris Prentiss

c35279a

You create your future moment by moment.

relationships laws-of-love

Chris Prentiss

e80fc52

Each of us is different and has different needs. In addition, our needs change over the course of our relationship. When you are committed to an enduring relationship with someone, you aren't simply concerned about having your needs met. You also go out of your way to care for your loved one, being aware of and adaptable to their changing needs.

relationships inspiration life love the-laws-of-love chris-prentiss self-help

Chris Prentiss

dd2b6fd

Life's tempering and altering process often takes the form of adversity, and, as far as outward appearances are concerned, seems to be working against us when it is actually working for us.

relationships inspiration life love the-laws-of-love

Chris Prentiss

29c9372

Life is like a river: nothing is ever the same, even for an instant.

relationships life the-laws-of-love self-help

Chris Prentiss

4d34dd5

Dingen die eenmaal weg zijn, kunnen niet teruggehaald worden, dat wist hij nu wel. Een klap, eenmaal uitgedeeld, kan niet worden ingetrokken. Woorden, eenmaal uitgesproken, kunnen niet onuitgesproken worden gemaakt. We mogen verdergaan alsof er niets verloren, niets gedaan, niets gezegd is, we mogen beweren het allemaal te vergeten, maar ons diepste wezen vergeet niet, omdat we voor altijd veranderd zijn.

relationships

Julian Barnes

5e2fc04

Do you believe in chaos- in random, uncontrolled events, in the idea that anything can happen at any time without fixed laws governing it? If you believe that, you will always be in a state of fear, not knowing what will happen from one moment to the next. The fear might be small, but it is there. That fear results in a lack of security and a feeling of mistrust.

relationships the-laws-of-love self-help

Chris Prentiss

a71257d

"The author describes Speaker of the House Sam Rayburn as "seldom at ease without a gavel in his hand."

relationships vocation job

Robert A. Caro

cedda3f

A newcomer could ascertain the identity of a town's true leaders - which storekeeper was respected, which farmer was listened to other farmers - only through endless hours of subtle probing of reticent men.

relationships leadership retail-politics

Robert A. Caro

dc9fa90

Every relationship is an education. Each new person we welcome into our hearts is a chance to evolve into something radically different than we used to be.

relationships

Brian K. Vaughan

d6d68cf

And I dare to believe that it really is. I dare to bet on us again.

relationships love gamble dare second-chances

Lisa Renee Jones

837ffed

She's such a lovely woman, he'd tell me time and time again. I'd nod, because my mom is such a lovely woman. And charming and smart. Can't argue with any of that. She's also a fucking wack job.

relationships

Lisa Gardner

ac3ad4d

By the end of the affair, she had acquired so much miserable information about men and women she almost decided to give up relationships for good.

men relationships women

Angela Carter

c9d3e01

"Donner Party Forsaken, fucking in the cold, eating each other, lost runny noses, complaining all the time like so many

relationships

Richard Brautigan

e57a58e

Dear God, I don't want my fear to be a barrier to the blessings you are trying to bestow. Cast out my fear, and help me to trust your perfect love. But also grant me a full measure of wisdom. Do not let me be led astray by my own desires. If it is not your will that I pursue a relationship with Levi, I pray that you will stop me. Make your message so clear that I cannot argue it away. Protect me, Lord, and show me the way I should go.

relationships prayer religion wisdom inspirational faith-quotes godly-woman historical

Karen Witemeyer

0061ca1

Humans have a tendency to look for things in the places where it is easiest to search for them rather than in the places where the truth is more likely to be found.

relationships truth

Esther Perel

8b463fb

At their peak, affairs rarely lack imagination. Nor do they lack desire, abundance of attention, romance, and playfulness. Shared dreams, affection, passion and endless curiosityall these are natural ingredients found in the adulterous plot. They are also ingredients of thriving relationships. It is no accident that many of the most erotic couples lift their marital strategies directly from the infidelity playbook.

marriage relationships

Esther Perel

b593120

"You're the only person who means anything to me in the whole world, you're all I've got..." "Well then you've got nothin."

relationships meaning love nothing

Garth Ennis

8ce7a28

That's what I've noticed about being 32: it is a lot of women and a lot of boys our age.

relationships

Mindy Kaling

6dcb0e7

She was such a solitary woman. A solitary woman who longed for one person to know her. I think I do know her now, but it is too late.

understanding solitude loneliness relationships

Jeanette Winterson

7032448

Britain had an air of careless supremacy which GALLED her neighbors.

relationships compassion leadership visuals

Barbara W. Tuchman

b8ff7e2

I have known both of you all your lives, have carried your Daddy in my arms and on my shoulders, kissed and spanked him and watched him learn to walk. I don't know if you've known anybody from that far back; if you've loved anybody that long, first as an infant, then as a child, then as a man, you gain a strange perspective on time and human pain and effort. Other people cannot see what I see whenever I look into your father's face, for behind your father's face as it is today are all those other faces which were his. Let him laugh and I see a cellar your father does not remember and a house he does not remember and I hear in his present laughter his laughter as a child. Let him curse and I remember him falling down the cellar steps, and howling, and I remember, with pain, his tears, which my hand or your grandmother's so easily wiped away. But no one's hand can wipe away those tears he sheds invisibly today, which one hears in his laughter and in his speech and in his songs.

relationships inspirational parenting

James     Baldwin

2ed0e7b

You stop talking about things when you've worked them out. You're no longer an observer but a participant. You're too busy for this bullshit.

relationships

Caitlin Moran